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The first task for all family members in this
developmental scheme is to establish a sense of security about ones self and
the relationships one has with other family members and finally the sense of
security that one has with the rest of the world. This is a task that not
only the children within a family must tackle, but one that adult members
must also master. Secure parents have a much better chance of teaching
their children how to be secure.
Feeling safe within the family environment, having a
sense of being meaningfully connected to other family members and having a
sense that one truly belongs to their family are some of the issues
associated with being able to establish a sense of security about ones self.
When one has the opportunity to establish a sense of
security about ones self and the world, she is ready to reach out into the
world, begin to explore it and master the challenges that come with living.
Establishing a sense of one’s individuality and becoming independent are
things that can occur only after one is secure with themselves and their
world. Feeling empowered to face the challenges of living and developing
the skills to master these challenges creates a sense within people that
they are acting upon the world rather than the world acting upon them.
When one has created a sufficient sense that they are
free to act upon their world they are ready to face the task of feeling good
about what they are doing. Taking personal pride in one’s work, gaining a
sense of self respect from making the right choices and sensing that one is
accepted by their community are just a few of the ways one gains a sense of
their own worth and esteem.
Finally, when all the developmental phases of security,
freedom and self esteem have been mastered there is the opportunity for
these pieces to work together in a balanced way. Having a sense of being a
complete person, experiencing a sense of integrity and being in-tune with
one’s family and community are some of the ways that one might arrive at a
sense of balance.
Successful passage through each of these developmental
stages begins with what happens within one’s core family and home.
The articles that follow provide specific ValueCentered
information about how to learn and finally, to teach other family members
how to successfully progress through the development phases of Security,
Freedom, Self Esteem and Balance. |
